Friday, May 8, 2015

Impending Six Months and Mothers's Day

Six months ago I was standing at a table at the Civil Affairs Office in Wuhan, Hubei, China waiting to meet our son. Six months ago, when this precious, beautiful boy walked through the door, he took my breath away. 

Aiden & Ethan meeting their baby brother for the first time ❤️

I was in love.

Fast forward six months. I still love him. Even more now than the day we met him! He is precious, and smart, and stubborn on a level even I have to admire.
Fast forward six months. It's Mothers' Day, and I have all three of my boys under one roof. AND, I'm the mother of THREE BOYS.
Fast forward six months. I am still breathless -- but for entirely different reasons. I quite simply no longer have time to catch my breath! Wow. Three boys: ages (almost) 7, 4 1/2, and (in 3 months) 4. Yeah. I'm tired. A lot.

But, oh, my heart. I would not miss these guys and this beautiful craziness for all the energy in the world. I would not trade this insanity, this (marginally) controlled chaos for any amount quiet, calm saneness.

And I know. I know. It's only going to get busier, more hectic. Wilder. Can you think of a more wonderful reason to be exhausted, though?

Wednesday, February 11, 2015

It was official....

....three months ago today,

and our lives have been infinitely better every day since!

We are so grateful you are our son and brother, Carter Allen!

Friday, February 6, 2015

Three Months Ago

What were you doing three months ago? Here's what Troy and I were doing. Yep. We were China bound. Now, I don't know if I should say it was JUST three months ago or it was THREE WHOLE MONTHS ago. Sometimes it seems like a lifetime ago and then it seems like it was just yesterday. Mostly, though, it feels like he has been ages since we went to get our little guy. I forget he has only been with us for a few months not forever. The reality is, three months ago we landed in Shanghai,

giddy with anticipation!

Monday, January 26, 2015

We Built Us a FORT!

Because I haven't been busy enough with my return to work, being sick (probably Influenza A), having a very sick kid in Ethan (definitely Influenza A), and trying to find our new routine / balance, I decided to do a quick make-over of the storage area under our stairs. We simply do not have enough space in which the boys can play, so I decided to create a "fort." With the help of Emily (and hers and Jeremy's generosity to allow us to use space in their garage for the winter), I did just that. It is still a work in progress, but the boys love it, and hopefully it will help us to retain a shred of sanity, especially on the probable bitterly cold, snowy days we're still facing this winter and during the rainy cold days we're all but guaranteed this spring. I know I wish I'd have had a fort like this when I was a kid. Heck, I wish I had one now!

Tuesday, November 25, 2014

Our Last Days in China -- A Pictorial Review

On one of our last days, we had our Consulate Appointment.

With this appointment, Carter got his US visa ensuring that once we touched down in the US, he became a citizen

That night, after spending the day making a stop to buy some pearls at the pearl market, we went on the Pearl River cruise. We all had a wonderful time eating Papa John's pizza and enjoying a Pearl River beer.

The next day, after making a last stop on Shamian Island and eating at our neighborhood, legitimately local restaurant, we took a van with an wonderful couple from Nebraska down to Hong Kong.

Our last day was spent in Hong Kong. Well, not really. Most of it was on Lantau Island where we took a 25 minute (ONE WAY) gondola / cable car ride where I was fairly certain we would plummet 100s of feet to our deaths in a ball of twisted metal and broken glass. Against all odds, we did not and spent a fabulous day at the Big Buddha enjoying the breathtaking scenery and gorgeous weather.

The rest of the day doesn't even warrant the time it would take to explain. Suffice it to say, getting off the MTR at either the Hong Kong Station or the Kowloon Station was more than a little confusing and the taxi / color / island system does not lend itself to usage when you're tired, hungry, and annoyed. We may have gotten "stuck" in an incredibly upscale mall. Frustrating does not begin to do justice to the emotions we were experiencing.....

At one point, when we did step away from the metro station proper, we were greeted with this amazing sight. Sadly, we could NOT figure out how to get there! Geez.

We finally gave up at went back to the hotel to eat supper. At least it was astronomically expensive. :( This does not sit well with a penny-pinching tightwad such as myself, but it was the last day, and we were done. A detail worth noting? Throughout the entire day (1/2 day debacle), Carter did not fuss. Not once. The kid is ridiculous! Starting on the metro, he even fell asleep for about an hour and a half in his stroller,
that is until Troy pulled him out to hold him so he would be more comfortable. We can only pray that this kind of travel is not a fluke or related to the state-of-adoption-shock. He was like that the entire two weeks we were together in China. He made the time in-country far too easy which allowed us to see a lot of China and experience a lot of the culture. What a blessing -- in so many more ways than that, obviously!

Coming home the next day was nothing short of brutal, not because of Carter since he slept, played or watched videos; rather it was brutal just because it seemed to be the eternal day. We were awake for nearly 40 hours straight. However, the rough day of travel was somewhat mitigated by being met at the airport by a couple "groups" of people. Our boys, other family and close friends greeted us at the top of the escalators.

As we descended, we were welcomed by a group of students.

A warm, sweet welcome to say the least! Our home was even festooned! And snacks and beverages were waiting as well.

Sigh. We are more blessed than mere pictures and words can convey.

Since then, jetlag has been a cruel and constant companion. Hopefully that will be gone soon, too! It is sitting heavily with me now, though, so I will conclude this post. In the next post, I will try express our gratitude, though, as intimated earlier, paltry words probably cannot do it justice. Til then....


So, I have had every intention of updating the blog, but jetlag has been brutal. In a nutshell, we're doing well. Aiden and Ethan have been sweet and gentle with Carter, and it appears Carter loves them. However, the newness may already be wearing off for the older two. Carter had the audacity to crawl up on the chair next to Aiden as he was playing on his iPad, and Aiden (although relatively delicately by his standards) instructed Carter to go away. Ethan, understandably is showing some signs of jealousy but is still a doll and will frequently, unsolicited, inform me that he loves Carter. Then he will go on to say he also loves Mommy and Daddy and Aiden. Sweet boy.

Carter is adjusting pretty well; He's goofy, silly, and remarkably sweet. He's amazing at entertaining himself and would , if we'd allow it, require very little attention. Still, we feel that on a scale of 1 to 10 for adjustment, he's at about a 2 or 3. He's still in the people-pleasing phase. Hence us hunkering down and adhering to practices of past: only Mom and Dad are allowed to hold him and comfort him; only we get to feed him or offer him treats; just we can take care of his needs, essentially. We do this so he learns we're not just passing through. We're the real deal: Mom and Dad! This is home, and we're going nowhere, no matter what he does. We are here to love him and take care of him forever. For the next few months, this is how we plan to approach the situation. Much like we did with Aiden and Ethan. We're even doing an immediate family-of-five stay-at-home Thanksgiving.

On a positive note: today something must have scared Carter while he was playing on the train set downstairs. (That's not the positive note!) I heard him whimper, and as I was making my way towards the stairs, he cried out Momma -- and meant, beyond a shadow of a doubt, me! And, he held his arms up to be comforted. I've even had the privilege of rocking him to sleep a few times since being home.

Ok, I still have a post of thanks to do (which seems appropriate considering the time of year!) re: all the people who helped us get to this point -- having our son home! The list is extensive and the thanks will be profuse; however, last night was another relatively rough one as Carter still has nights and days mixed around. I'm not doing a whole lot better in that respect. Therefore, that post and one wrapping up our China portion will have to come later. And this one will have to remain lame. I will try to save face, though, by including a couple pictures as that's all anybody really cares about, let's face it!

An American citizen! Landed at Dallas / Fort Worth Airport and is officially a citizen of the US!

Big brother Ethan showing him how the iPod works

Happy birthday, Dad!

Next post(s)? Our last days in China / Hong Kong and our eternal gratitude.